You ARE Okay…Even When You Think You’re Not

You ARE Okay…Even When You Think You’re Not

I had a bad week. After an amazing birthday celebration, I sank low and found myself feeling sad and melancholy with a heavy heart. The feelings have lasted for days during which time I began to beat myself up for wasting time. I started to feel victimized by my mood and frustrated that I didn’t have the energy to get out there and “make things happen.”

This pattern started when I was very young. I was a sick kid and I often felt depressed. I desperately wanted to feel better! I became curious at a young age about how the Body, Mind and Spirit came together to create our overall experience. You name it I’ve tried it, read it, or done it with my continual focus on getting well.

Fast-forward decades later, and while I feel so much better, I still struggle. I get down more times then I’d like to admit and although my physical body has been healthy, I still get tired at times. This has led to a repetitive pattern of thoughts like “what am I doing wrong?” “After all this effort, why do I still feel bad?”

Perhaps you can relate. It seems like so many people are out there talking about their successes, their breakthroughs and their wins and very few are open enough to share what really goes on just below the surface; those feelings of fragility, insecurity, and fear.

How many of you have an underlying problem that never goes away? How many feel that you are broken in some way and need to be fixed? Perhaps it’s a physical ailment that returns under stressful conditions or a constant struggle to provide a good income doing what you love, or a generalized anxiety and depression? Whatever the so-called problem, maybe it is time to embrace it rather than chase it away. Perhaps we can make it our friend rather than something we resist with all our force.

There are important lessons to learn through our pain and struggle. It may often seem that life offers us unexpected and sometimes undesirable experiences. No matter how positive we are, how many warrior weekends we’ve attended or the number of spiritual books we’ve read, sometimes shit happens. And guess what? It doesn’t mean that there we are faulty or that we’ve made bad choices.

Begin paying special attention to those things that aren’t working for you, those seemingly negative thoughts and patterns that you want so badly to disappear. Talk to them. Befriend them. Listen. Forgive. Offer them unconditional love. Treat them as if you would a desperate friend in need. They are parts of you just as much as the awesome award you recently won, the marathon you completed, or the dream home that you live in.

Wellness, health, and life are all about balance. With the good will come some bad. With the ups comes downs. When we work so hard to resist, avoid, and block the negative, we end up beating ourselves up and draining our very life source. We swim upstream rather than going with the flow. We go outward rather than inward where the true acceptance lies.

Today, love and accept yourself unconditionally no matter where you are. Embrace the pain and begin checking in to see what it’s trying to tell you. Be gentle with yourself and know that there is nowhere you need to be other than right here, right now. Be okay drudging through the mud. Begin making self-love, self-acceptance, and life-acceptance a regular part of your day, week, month and ultimately, your life.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles

http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Delicious Vegan, Sugar Free Apple Berry Crumble

Delicious Vegan, Sugar Free Apple Berry Crumble

img_1673Although often seen as a fall dessert, I love crumble ALL year round! Here is a wonderful recipe that I created which has NO Sugar but instead uses the AMAZING Lakanto Monkfruit Sweetener!

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RECIPE (All Organic)
Filling
3 Cups Peeled Apples (Mix The Variety of your Choice, Approx. 3 Apples)
4 Cups of Fresh or Frozen Mixed Berries
1-2 Tbsp Coconut Oil
2 Tbsp Fresh Lemon Juice
2 Tbsp Fresh Vanilla Extract or Vanilla Bean
1/2 Cup Lakanto Monkfruit Sweetener (Golden or Classic)
1/4 Cup of CornStarch (Non GMO)
Dash of Sea Salt

Topping
1 Cup Almond Flour
1/2 Cup Coconut Flour
1 Cup Lakanto Monkfruit Sweetener (Golden or Classic)
4 Cups Rolled Oats
Dash of Sea Salt
1 1/2 Cup of Cold Vegan Butter (Earth Balance is my Fave)
1 Cup Chopped Nuts (Pecans work well)

Garnish
Coconut Cream or Vegan Ice Cream, Fresh Berries, Sprig of Mint, Drizzle of Lakanto Monkfruit Maple Syrup

Directions
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
2. For the Topping, mix almond meal, monkfruit sweetener, coconut flour, rolled oats and salt in a medium sized bowl. Add cubed vegan butter using your hands to crumble it into the dry ingredients until there are no pieces of butter larger than a hazelnut. Refrigerate while preparing the filling.
3. For the filling, sauté diced apples with 1-2 Tbsp of coconut oil until tender and slightly caramelized, approximately 5 minutes.
4. Mix the cooked apples with the berries, vanilla, and lemon juice in a large bowl.
5. In a separate bowl, whisk together monkfruit sweetener, corn starch, and salt. Gently fold this mixture into the apple and berry mixture until thoroughly combined.
6. Place the filling into a pyrex dish or individual ramekins and add a generous amount of dry topping making sure that the fruit filling is more than half the portion.
7. Bake 20-30 minutes until the top is golden brown and the filling is bubbly.
8. Serve warm in beautiful bowls topped with chilled coconut cream or vegan ice cream, fresh berries, a sprig of mint, and a drizzle of Lakanto Maple Syrup.