The Voice Of The Bully – Are YOU Your Worst Critic?

The Voice Of The Bully – Are YOU Your Worst Critic?

Most of us have been bullied. It often happens during our adolescent and teenage years and can take form in both verbal and physical abuse. I was bullied from kindergarten all the way through high school so I can certainly relate all too well.

The tormentor that I want to bring light to today is that of our inner bully. The voice of sabotage, put downs, and painful, recurring messages that we direct toward ourselves.

Ironically, we learn early on from other bullies, one of two things; To either accept their cruelty as truth, or if we have enough strength and self-respect from a young age, to repel their destructive messages. Unfortunately, many of us take these mean and degrading words to heart and we begin to use them as weapons against ourselves.

Constant abuse of any kind can eventually play with our minds and cause us to go into a downward spiral of negative, habitual self-talk. Even with plenty of positive tapes playing in the background, the frequent, underlying message is that “we are not enough.”

So how do we stop the influence of our bully, making way for more happiness, success, and self-esteem?

  • Recognize The Voice– Become clear that there is, in fact, a voice that is getting in the way. Begin to see patterns in your thoughts, actions, and inner dialogue that makes you feel bad. Listen to those voices but don’t buy into them. Start to recognize how you bully yourself and put yourself down on an ongoing basis.
  • Don’t Believe it– The next step is to STOP believing these messages. The routine we have fallen into is a toxic pattern of self-abuse and it has to stop! Begin separating yourself from the negativity and understand that it isn’t the voice of truth or reason. It is simply negative programming.
  • Befriend The Bully– Make friends with the bully. Hear what they have to say. Get sensible and send the tyrant gentleness. Like all bullies in our life, all they really need is recognition and love. What we resist, persists. What we love and forgive, dissipates.
  • Practice Feeling– Pay close attention to how you feel. What thoughts and words empower and energize you? Which ones drain you and make you feel tired or sad? Eventually, with a little practice, you WILL be able to create a new pattern of positivity, self-love, and becoming your own best friend and support system.
  • Spend Time Being Confident – Extend more energy doing those things that make you feel confident. If you constantly push yourself into areas that make you anxious and insecure, it’s fine to a point because it causes you to grow, but make sure that you are also doing many things that you’re great at! Somebody with low self-worth tends to continue patterns that emphasize their feelings of lack. Shift gears, you ARE amazing at many things! Start doing them more often.
  • Re-Charge– Continually re-charge your emotional and spiritual batteries. Create a daily practice that keeps you plugged in. Pray, meditate, journal, do yoga, read uplifting books, sing, get creative, and do whatever it takes to keep you balanced and open-hearted. With consistency, you will keep your batteries from becoming dangerously low and therefore avoiding the fall back into old patterns.

From somebody who has lived most of my life feeling unworthy due to early programming, I can tell you that THERE IS HOPE! It will take some consistent effort on your part but if you keep on, keeping on, you will most definitely make positive strides in the direction of regaining your natural state…that of confidence, self-love, worthiness, and a knowing that you are enough just as you are!

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Consistency is Key

Consistency is Key

One thing that I have learned with almost 50 years under my belt is that consistency is the key to living a more satisfying and successful life. I’ve also figured out that being consistent always wins over hard work.

The problem that many of us have in life is that we lack consistency in certain areas. We tend to work hard for periods of time whether it be at our job or an exercise regimen but then we often slack afterwards because we feel burned out or tired.

When we overdo it in any area of our life it only makes sense that we’ll eventually lose momentum. Even with diets, we tend to be extreme for short periods to get the results we desire but the strict discipline is difficult to keep up and we end up gaining all of the weight back soon afterwards.

Moderate and consistent effort wins every time. People have often asked me how I have stayed fit throughout my life and my answer is always consistency. I don’t push too hard, I never have, and I have worked out 4-6 days per week since I was 13. Almost 37 years of consistent fitness has gotten me amazing results. While there were certainly times that I didn’t necessarily enjoy it, not once did I find it hard work.

While I have not been consistent in all areas, I definitely have the fitness and health component covered. None of us can be balanced in all areas of our life at all times and many of us put more emphasis in certain areas over others. But if we could learn to redistribute that effort into all parts of our day-to-day life from our spiritual practice to our work to relationships and our healthy lifestyle habits, we’d enjoy more stability and a smoother ride throughout.

Like brushing our teeth, doing something regularly and creating a routine makes it easier to continue. The longer we go without consistent action, the harder it is to get back to it. For example, have you taken time off from your exercise routine only to have months go by without doing anything? Have you avoided regular decluttering from your home only to quickly see things pile up in front of your eyes? Perhaps you notice that when you eat unhealthy foods regularly your body begins craving more unhealthy foods the longer you go.

Our spiritual and mental health also requires routine. When we run our spiritual batteries low, we become stressed, tired, overwhelmed, and grumpy. Committing to a daily gratitude and meditation practice for example, even for a few minutes per day will make the difference in how we feel.

When we act consistently it also gives us a sense of pride that we are taking care of ourselves and our life. We gain a self-reliance and confidence that we are committed to greatness and to being our best selves and we prove that we can in fact, do whatever we set our minds to.

The next time you find yourself slipping in any of the important areas of your life, stop, take a breath, and make a different choice. Push yourself if necessary and refocus your energy. Often the beginning is the most challenging but once over that initial hurdle, you’re set to go.

Sometimes just the simple awareness that we are off track or inconsistent is enough to snap us back into a new way of thinking, one that encourages us to keep moving forward towards our ultimate happiness and success in all that we do.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

Botox – Not Just for Wrinkles!

Botox – Not Just for Wrinkles!

Los Angeles is most likely the Botox capital of the world. Of course that is just my assumption based on the fact that there are so many leading men and women here making an effort to slow the clock for their film and television careers.

Whether you’re a celebrity or a not, millions of people around the world are benefiting from the cosmetic effects of Botox.

As a refresher, Botox is a drug made from a toxin produced by the bacterium Clostridium botulinum. It’s the same toxin that causes a life-threatening type of food poisoning called botulism. Doctors have been using a low dose of it for many years to treat fine lines and wrinkles.

But beyond the quest for youth, Botox has also been researched to have other beneficial uses. Here is a short list of how it is now being used in the world of medicine:

Excessive Sweating – Sweat no more! Botox is a temporary treatment option for those who suffer from hyperhidrosis or excessive sweating. Botox is injected into the sweat glands just under the skin to temporarily block the chemical signals from the nerves that stimulate the sweat glands. Botox prevents unnecessary sweating for an average period of six to seven months.

Migraines – This has proven a Godsend for those who suffer from migraines. The FDA has approved the use of Botox in a variety of areas in the body including the temples, neck, forehead, and shoulders to prevent or significantly lower the onset of chronic migraines.

Eyelid Spasms – One of the first medical uses for Botox was for abnormal eye spasms. Botox is still used for severe and uncontrollable eye and muscle spasms.

Chronic Neck and Cervical Muscle Pain – For those living with chronic neck and back pain, Botox may help. In 2012, a study showed that Botox injections significantly improved pain levels for sufferers of chronic neck pain that happens with cervical dystonia.

Overactive Bladder – Botox is often used to treat several incontinence and overactive bladder symptoms in adults. It may help for those with a strong urge to urinate, those who have constant leaking and for those who urinate too frequently.

Muscle Stiffness – Botox is used to treat increased muscle stiffness in the elbow, wrist, arm, and finger muscles in adults with upper limb spasticity.

Jaw Reduction – Botox can be used to reduce the jaw size by injecting Botox into the masseter muscles. This is mainly done for cosmetic reasons for women who want to appear more round and feminine resulting in a less square appearance.

TMJ Disorder – Relatively new research has shown Botox to be effective in treating a variety of jaw disorders including severe tension, TMJ Disorder, and lockjaw. When injected into the jaw, Botox relaxes the facial muscles while reducing occurrences and symptoms.

Depression – A fascinating study in Germany linked the use of Botox on frown lines with a reduction of depression symptoms and an increase in overall wellbeing.  They stated that facial movements often signal our emotions and the use of Botox can interrupt this cycle, which was shown to alleviate depressive thoughts and feelings.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles.

http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

How to Lose 5-20 Pounds in 10 Days!

How to Lose 5-20 Pounds in 10 Days!

It seems that many people struggle with their weight. Everybody wants to feel comfortable in his or her own skin and we all want to project a positive image to the world that makes us feel confident. While feeling overweight isn’t the core issue of our lack of self-acceptance, it certainly is a contributing factor. Being overweight has other potential negative health effects too such as long-term disease and obesity.

For these reasons and more, I’ve paired up with an amazing superfoods company to run a regular 10-Day transformational detox and cleanse. The majority of participants have experienced weight loss of somewhere between 5-20 lbs. in 10 days in a very healthy way. But more importantly, people have seen a reduction in unhealthy cravings, an increase in energy, more restorative sleep, improved skin, and just an overall healthier feeling. Not bad for 10 days huh?

As I mention to my clients and in my book LIVE LOOK FEEL, it is always a good idea to give our bodies a break, even for the most fit and healthy people. This is where a short-term detox and cleanse comes in. Often our bodies can become sluggish, overworked, and under-nourished due to numerous factors from a lack of nutritionally dense food, poor digestion, or stress.

Depending upon the type of cleanse, a detoxification assists our body in not only eliminating toxins and buildup in our systems but also brings in important nutrients, vitamins, and minerals, and works to alkaline our body and off-set some of the excess acidity. A detox also prompts us to become aware of our addictive patterns with food and it teaches us the importance of giving our body a rest from constant digesting, especially when it comes to meat protein and processed foods.

The 10-Day Transformation includes only the highest quality organic, raw, vegan, and non-GMO superfoods that I have ever seen. And I have seen a lot! But regardless of which products you use to detox whether it be supplements, food, or juice, make sure that you’re using top quality ingredients and that it has been approved by your doctor especially if you have any pre-existing health conditions or if you’re on medication.

Losing weight is just the beginning when it comes to detoxing. It’s what goes on inside on a cellular level that is most important. Often we can’t see those changes but we can certainly feel them! Expect an increase in vibrancy, energy, and an overall feeling of wellbeing.

Keep in mind that if you’re deciding to stop caffeine or other drugs during your cleanse, some withdrawal can be expected for the first few days. Make a commitment to yourself to stick with it no matter what, drink lots of water, and remind yourself that your body deserves a vacation just as much as you do!

  • If you’d like to find out more about my group 10-Day Transformation or if you’d like to join in, feel free to email me with any questions: jay@jaybradleylifestyle.com

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

The Imposter Syndrome

The Imposter Syndrome

 

Have you ever felt like an imposter? Have you achieved success in your life only to experience an underlying feeling that people will soon find out you’re a fake? You’re definitely not alone! Numerous people have the imposter syndrome, but few talk about it openly.

According to Wikipedia “the imposter syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.”

I have had intimate conversations with famous friends and they have expressed the same fears too; that some day, people will find out the truth…they aren’t the knowledgeable, talented, and intelligent expert the world believes them to be. Deep down, they feel like an imposter.

I feel this way too at times. Although I am not at the success level that I’d like (the perfect excuse and symptom of the imposter syndrome) and even though I have spent over 30 years studying, learning, and experimenting with health, self-help, and life itself, I sometimes feel that just one more certification or a few more years will give me the edge.

The truth? We ARE READY NOW to shine our light and we DO NOT REQUIRE anybody’s permission or another promotion, certification, or celebrity client to do so.

It is said that Albert Einstein might have suffered from the syndrome near the end of his life: a month before his death, he reportedly confided in a friend, saying “the exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.”

How many times have you felt like a fake, a swindler, or simply an imposter? Have you ever felt unworthy? What about lacking confidence or self-worth? If you have, maybe this information will be helpful.

We can begin today, to reprogram our thoughts and begin to change our limiting beliefs once and for all. Learning to love and accept ourselves is the number one solution to overcoming this. We also need to stop comparing ourselves to other people and focus on what our unique gifts are. When we can let go of the need to be perfect and focus on doing the best that we can at all times, we then begin to release the hold that this syndrome has on us.

In spiritual terms, we are ALL entitled to God’s gifts of abundance, success, and whatever it is that we dream of. It is time to begin giving thanks to that very energy which has provided for us instead of judging ourselves for the accomplishments. It is also time to get out of your own way releasing any feelings of ego associated with these successes. Learn to accept these wins as something separate of your personality, and as gifts that have been bestowed upon you rather than ones that YOU created.

We all work hard and life isn’t always easy. Isn’t it time to start truly enjoying our successes and humbly, yet proudly accepting any praise, honors, and abundance that comes with it? What if you’re NOT an imposter but rather a magnificent manifestor who has connected to this source of unlimited abundance, prosperity and love? Now doesn’t THAT feel good?