And The Oscar Goes To…

And The Oscar Goes To…

You may be curious as to why I’d write about the Oscars in a wellness section of City Watch LA. One might think that the Hollywood scene is all about money, power, outer appearances, and a fake double kiss on the cheek with the right connections.

But after watching closely, I got a very different sense of that world. It may be partly due to the recent “me too” movement but it feels as if the heart of the business has shifted. I became keenly aware of an underlying significance at the core of each speech, to follow your dreams.

Year after year, I find myself getting emotional throughout the Oscars. Part of me feels excited and inspired by what the actors and the movies are portraying yet there is also sadness, a feeling that I am missing out. It’s not that I want to be a celebrity actor but rather, I want to have a larger, starring role in my own life. Viewing the Oscars always reminds me that I can reach higher and dream bigger than I imagined.

If you listen closely to each of the winners, their speeches are filled with thanks for those who have helped them along the way. There is a great deal of humility and gratitude that comes across for receiving such an honor. Even deeper than that, there is a message of hope. “Do not give up on your dreams” says one actor, “don’t let anybody tell you that you can’t” says another. And on and on the inspiration goes.

Underneath all of the elegant gowns and tailored tuxedos, designer jewelry, cameras, lights, and fame, comes a message of courage, faith, and hopefulness. Through all of the glitz and glam is a grassroots, heart-warming story of achieving dreams and reaching a goal that seemed impossible to many.

Whether you’re a single parent, electrician, esthetician, or athlete, and no matter what your age, dreams are what keep us going. Faith that we are on the right path and serving our highest and best mission is the fuel that helps us focus. On those days when we feel like quitting and our inner spark is on the verge of going out, dreams light the way for a better life.

You may not aspire for an Oscar or even to be in the public eye but we all have a unique and awesome purpose. It’s up to each one of us to discover that mission and then go about our life sharing it with others. Our ultimate undertaking is to leave the world a better place because we lived.

Most of us won’t receive an Oscar but we can begin playing a bigger role in our own lives. We can star in the story of our life like nobody else can. We can use our unique talents and abilities and become more present, giving, and open. Then we can listen to those around us who send us praise, thanks, and appreciation for all that we have done for them; accolades that are well deserved and far more important than any trophy.

Whether it be touching the lives of millions or simply one. We ARE making a difference! We ARE here for a reason and your dreams exist to keep you on track, constantly moving you forward while expanding and growing. Never give up and don’t ever underemphasize what is possible in the screenplay of your life.

And the Oscar goes to…YOU!

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert and a Transformational Breath Healer Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

The Imposter Syndrome

The Imposter Syndrome

 

Have you ever felt like an imposter? Have you achieved success in your life only to experience an underlying feeling that people will soon find out you’re a fake? You’re definitely not alone! Numerous people have the imposter syndrome, but few talk about it openly.

According to Wikipedia “the imposter syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.”

I have had intimate conversations with famous friends and they have expressed the same fears too; that some day, people will find out the truth…they aren’t the knowledgeable, talented, and intelligent expert the world believes them to be. Deep down, they feel like an imposter.

I feel this way too at times. Although I am not at the success level that I’d like (the perfect excuse and symptom of the imposter syndrome) and even though I have spent over 30 years studying, learning, and experimenting with health, self-help, and life itself, I sometimes feel that just one more certification or a few more years will give me the edge.

The truth? We ARE READY NOW to shine our light and we DO NOT REQUIRE anybody’s permission or another promotion, certification, or celebrity client to do so.

It is said that Albert Einstein might have suffered from the syndrome near the end of his life: a month before his death, he reportedly confided in a friend, saying “the exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.”

How many times have you felt like a fake, a swindler, or simply an imposter? Have you ever felt unworthy? What about lacking confidence or self-worth? If you have, maybe this information will be helpful.

We can begin today, to reprogram our thoughts and begin to change our limiting beliefs once and for all. Learning to love and accept ourselves is the number one solution to overcoming this. We also need to stop comparing ourselves to other people and focus on what our unique gifts are. When we can let go of the need to be perfect and focus on doing the best that we can at all times, we then begin to release the hold that this syndrome has on us.

In spiritual terms, we are ALL entitled to God’s gifts of abundance, success, and whatever it is that we dream of. It is time to begin giving thanks to that very energy which has provided for us instead of judging ourselves for the accomplishments. It is also time to get out of your own way releasing any feelings of ego associated with these successes. Learn to accept these wins as something separate of your personality, and as gifts that have been bestowed upon you rather than ones that YOU created.

We all work hard and life isn’t always easy. Isn’t it time to start truly enjoying our successes and humbly, yet proudly accepting any praise, honors, and abundance that comes with it? What if you’re NOT an imposter but rather a magnificent manifestor who has connected to this source of unlimited abundance, prosperity and love? Now doesn’t THAT feel good?