Sanity Guide for the Self-Employed

Sanity Guide for the Self-Employed

If you work for yourself, you understand that although it offers an exciting and independent opportunity, it isn’t always what we dreamed it would be.

Being self-motivated and accountable for your own actions is not easy and when the going gets tough, sometimes it’s easy to take a nap, grab a coffee with friends, or simply do nothing at all. And while it is certainly okay to let yourself off the hook at times, we also need incredible discipline and motivation to build our business. Having no structure and working solo is hard. All humans thrive on interaction and a social setting and extended periods of being in isolation can take its toll.

I know this all too well. I’ve been working for myself for well over a decade. Actually, there have only been a few times in my life that I actually had a job. I have thrived and I have lost my way. With any endeavor you’ll probably experience both sides of the coin too. If you’ve been fortunate enough to have ongoing success, then you have discovered the winning combination of hard work, great service, an important product, and possibly, ideal timing. But, if you find yourself in a lull or questioning your choices, just know that you aren’t alone.

Constantly re-creating yourself or your business along with ongoing self-promotion takes A LOT of energy. For example, remaining on social media for hours just to bring awareness to your mission can be exhausting and is quite different than being there to connect with old friends.

Here are some things that you may want to consider if you’re in the middle of a self-employed career crisis:

  • Hire a Coach– Sometimes we need assistance. Consider bringing in an expert who can guide you through your next steps. A professional coach can help you to re-evaluate and come up with a new plan for your career and your life.
  • Get a Job– To the entrepreneur, this seems like the ultimate failure, but there is nothing wrong with getting a job. Even a part time, new career can break up the monotony of your day-to-day routine. Creating a different setting, fresh energy, and new people along with having a place to go everyday especially if you work from home, may be exactly what you need. It doesn’t mean that you’re giving up. In fact, it may spark new ideas and creativity that has been missing in your business.
  • Less Can Be More– When you’re self-employed, taking time off to do something fun often instills guilt. Thoughts like “ but I need more clients” or “I haven’t made my numbers” come to mind and even when we do create down time, often we don’t enjoy it fully. Begin allowing yourself to let go and work less with more leisure time. You may be surprised at the new leads and opportunities that come from putting yourself out there socially, especially with a renewed sense of ease and openness.
  • Change it Up– If things get too monotonous in our life, it may be time for a change. Perhaps it’s time to move homes, take up a hobby, or have a short weekend getaway to re-fuel. Shaking things up in our life from our morning routine, to our living situation or the gym we go to each day, can help us to look at the world through new eyes. We all become creatures of habit so maybe it’s time to change it up!
  • Move On– If you’ve been working, striving, and pushing to make things happen, and if you’ve considered the previous steps to no avail, then maybe it’s time to move on. While giving up your self-employed dreams can feel heart-breaking, it may be exactly what you need to bring in new energy which can totally transform your life! What if your focus and tenacity at work has been blocking new love or an exciting collaboration that is better than you envisioned? Remember, the Universe always has your back. Letting go of the old or outmoded way of being and opening up to a place of less resistance may be precisely what will bring you even more joy, fulfillment, and prosperity than you ever imagined.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

The law of attraction is certainly not new but it has gotten much more attention over the past decade since the movie “The Secret” came out which spread the message that “what we think about often becomes our reality.”

Similar teachings go on to say that our thoughts and emotions have an aligning vibration. Joy for example, is considered high on the vibrational scale thought to bring more positive experiences into our life while feeling depressed or angry tend to perpetuate more things that keep us stuck. The higher we can reach on the emotional scale and the longer we can remain there, the more enjoyable our life experience.

Emotions are signposts. Positive, uplifting emotions are pretty good indications that we’re going in the right direction and that we are in the process of attracting similar good-feeling experiences. The opposite is true when we’re in a downward cycle. Of course bad things can happen while feeling good but it seems that they are often few and far in between. And when they do happen, somehow we are more able to cope and make the best of it.

But if you’ve experimented with using the law of attraction, you know that it isn’t always easy to stay in that positive, loving, happy, and appreciative state for long enough to get our stuff. In fact, there is a very good chance that what we wanted to bring in whether it was love, money, or a great new job may have been closer than we imagined but we ended up cutting off the flow by falling back into our negative ways of thinking just before it manifested.

So what can we do to remain in a positive state long enough to bring more goodness into our life? And for those of us who are more prone to depression, anxiety, or fear, are there things that we can do to make a more permanent shift?

I’ll be the first to admit that it can take hard work to feel good. Unlike some people who pop out of bed feeling grateful for each day, I literally have to put effort in to get there. Of course there are good days along the way, but most often, consistent action is required.

I always suggest that my clients create a morning spiritual practice which involves reading uplifting material, journaling, and saying prayers or meditating. But I have only recently realized that if feeling upbeat, happy, and optimistic aren’t your norm, you may have to commit to several practices throughout the day. You may be one of those people who need constant reminders in order to stay in the zone.

Our brain can be like a small child or puppy that requires training, discipline, and programming in order to feel good. If you’re in the habit of feeling victimized, sad, angry, unfulfilled, lost, unhappy, frustrated, depressed, anxious, or even complacent, then you may be one of those people who will require 2, 3, 4, or more spiritual and emotional re-charges throughout your day.

Here are some examples of what they might consist of:
-Reading Uplifting Books
-Reciting Affirmations Throughout the Day
-Listening to Positive Podcasts While Driving
-Keeping A Gratitude Journal
-Taking Time Out for a Guided Hypnosis
-Meditation & Prayer
-Breathing Sessions
-Youtube Videos Featuring Inspirational Stories
-Yoga, Tai Chi, Qui Gong, or Another Centering Practice
-Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/Tapping)

….along with many others alternatives that resonate with you.

I won’t lie, feeling upbeat can seem like a full time job for some of us. But guess what? There is no more important aspect of life than that you feel good. When you can remain in this state long enough, more and more joyful opportunities will come along giving you even more reasons to celebrate.

If you’re not living the life you dreamt about, look at your emotional state. How do you feel most of the time? Where are your thoughts leading you? Are you continually living the same experiences that displease you over and over again? If so, are you ready to put an end to it once and for all?

Take the time. Commit to numerous, short, daily time outs and re-charge. Literally bombard your mind with positivity. Re-wire your brain.

If you knew that your current emotions were guiding you, would you be happy with where you’d end up? If the answer is no, then put in the work and fix the problem. Of course none of us will feel great all of the time but if you spend the majority of your day feeling bad, it’s a sure sign that changes need to be made.

You deserve to live a full and happy life that brings all you desire. Are you willing to step up and grab what’s yours? Are you willing to let your emotions be your guide?

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Attention Men! Is your Testosterone Low?

Attention Men! Is your Testosterone Low?

If you’re a man in his 30’s, 40’s, 50’s or beyond it is well worth looking into your Testosterone levels. In fact, getting a full hormone panel regularly which includes a series of vital tests such as Testosterone, Estrogen, DHEA, and Thyroid to name a few, is an important tool in your goal of remaining youthful, vibrant, and healthy.

Your doctor won’t normally suggest hormone tests since it is often over and above the usual requirements of an annual physical. Perhaps it’s time to take your health into your own hands and communicate with your physician about your desire to get them checked.

Many guys when presented with the idea of Testosterone replacement have visions of angry, overstuffed bodybuilders when in reality, those images are often due to a higher than normal level of Testosterone mixed with other steroids.

For the everyday man who wants to increase energy, burn fat, build lean muscle, lower the risk of disease, increase cognitive function, and experience a more stable and upbeat mood, Testosterone may be the answer.

I was one of those men. Just a few years ago I found out that my T levels were lower than expected. Despite doing all that I could with exercise, diet, and nutrition, they remained on the low side of normal. I was still fit and lean but I suffered from bouts of depression and often felt unrested in the mornings after a long night’s sleep. I didn’t make the connection until I did more research.

My doctor suggested that I try a low dose of bio-identical Testosterone replacement therapy. Within a very short period of time, I felt an increase in energy, a more restful sleep, and my mood seemed stable and positive. I also noticed that I didn’t need to work out as arduously in order to get the results I once did just years before. For me, Testosterone was a godsend. It was as if I had cleaned the spark plugs of my body increasing the effectiveness and energy of all aspects of my health.

After much research, I truly believe that Bio-Identical Hormone Replacement Therapy is the answer for many men who are looking to not only increase their longevity but also to feel better along the way.

Testosterone can be taken via gel or cream, injection, patch, or from a pellet that is placed under the skin. Once you’ve done the initial blood work or saliva panel, an endocrinologist or hormone specialist can go over your best options and whether or not you’re a candidate. Keep in mind that many general practitioners will tell you that “you’re fine for your age” which may not always be the ideal for those looking to be at their optimal.

Some of the numerous benefits of increasing your Testosterone levels are:

  • Increased Physical Energy
  • Better Cognitive Function
  • Deeper and More Restful Sleep
  • Increased Libido
  • Stabilization of Mood and Decreased Depression
  • An Increase in Bone Mineral Density
  • Less Body Fat
  • Increased Lean Muscle
  • Decreased Risk of Certain Diseases

Testosterone replacement is surprisingly affordable and not just for Hollywood’s elite. Men all over the world are beginning to understand that the fountain of youth involves more than just eating well, exercising, and keeping a positive attitude. Sometimes, we need help from outside sources. In this case, a Bio-Identical Hormone that mimics our bodies own production, giving us a more vital and youthful appearance with a renewed zest that we may have thought had long passed us by.

*Always consult with your physician before beginning any hormone-related treatments.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

The Imposter Syndrome

The Imposter Syndrome

 

Have you ever felt like an imposter? Have you achieved success in your life only to experience an underlying feeling that people will soon find out you’re a fake? You’re definitely not alone! Numerous people have the imposter syndrome, but few talk about it openly.

According to Wikipedia “the imposter syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.”

I have had intimate conversations with famous friends and they have expressed the same fears too; that some day, people will find out the truth…they aren’t the knowledgeable, talented, and intelligent expert the world believes them to be. Deep down, they feel like an imposter.

I feel this way too at times. Although I am not at the success level that I’d like (the perfect excuse and symptom of the imposter syndrome) and even though I have spent over 30 years studying, learning, and experimenting with health, self-help, and life itself, I sometimes feel that just one more certification or a few more years will give me the edge.

The truth? We ARE READY NOW to shine our light and we DO NOT REQUIRE anybody’s permission or another promotion, certification, or celebrity client to do so.

It is said that Albert Einstein might have suffered from the syndrome near the end of his life: a month before his death, he reportedly confided in a friend, saying “the exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.”

How many times have you felt like a fake, a swindler, or simply an imposter? Have you ever felt unworthy? What about lacking confidence or self-worth? If you have, maybe this information will be helpful.

We can begin today, to reprogram our thoughts and begin to change our limiting beliefs once and for all. Learning to love and accept ourselves is the number one solution to overcoming this. We also need to stop comparing ourselves to other people and focus on what our unique gifts are. When we can let go of the need to be perfect and focus on doing the best that we can at all times, we then begin to release the hold that this syndrome has on us.

In spiritual terms, we are ALL entitled to God’s gifts of abundance, success, and whatever it is that we dream of. It is time to begin giving thanks to that very energy which has provided for us instead of judging ourselves for the accomplishments. It is also time to get out of your own way releasing any feelings of ego associated with these successes. Learn to accept these wins as something separate of your personality, and as gifts that have been bestowed upon you rather than ones that YOU created.

We all work hard and life isn’t always easy. Isn’t it time to start truly enjoying our successes and humbly, yet proudly accepting any praise, honors, and abundance that comes with it? What if you’re NOT an imposter but rather a magnificent manifestor who has connected to this source of unlimited abundance, prosperity and love? Now doesn’t THAT feel good?