Life Without Goals – Is It The Way To A Happier Experience?

Life Without Goals – Is It The Way To A Happier Experience?

Lately I’ve been sitting in a place unlike anywhere I’ve been before. I literally live my day-to-day experience without concrete goals, ambitions, or a particular destination in mind. This is the first time in my life where I have “no place to go” and I am surprisingly present and calm.

If you’re like me, you have thrived on pushing yourself towards achieving some type of future vision. You’ve found motivation through mental images of your dream home, the newest model of your favorite sports car, a perfect wedding, or manifesting the ideal physique. Whatever it is, most of us have been taught that desires equal a fulfilling reality. While I’d agree that as humans, we are often energized by new things, anytime we place our happiness in the hands of stuff yet to be accomplished, we are sure to be disappointed, and we may never find ourselves fully present in what is.

So how do we live more in the here and now and will we still attract a good experience if we stop trying? I have always been afraid to take a break from wanting with fear that my life would somehow go backwards, thinking that if I didn’t dream or desire, I’d simply shrivel up and die or at the very least, live some type of mediocre existence.

In fact, the opposite has occurred. I feel more alive than ever! Taking the pressure off to BE SOMEBODY, GET SOMEWHERE, and HAVE MORE STUFF has created an unparalleled presence and joy in THIS moment unlike anything I’ve felt before.

We’ve all heard about allowing enlightenment in through meditation and spiritual practice, and in theory, we understand what this entails. But unless we actually experience it, it’s difficult to grasp what it really means to live in the present.

This may come with age and maturity, and I’m in no way saying that I have mastered it, but when we can just slow down, take a breath, and realize that there is NO PLACE TO GET TO, and that everything outside of us is an illusion of sorts, then we begin to gain the wisdom that is described in ancient texts around the world. Knowing that we are enough just as we are. We are enough with or without our stuff, whether we are single or married, healthy or sick, rich or poor. We are enough because we are here!

Yes, we are physical beings having a spiritual experience and chances are that we will always have dreams of people, places, and things that we want to attract because we desire expansion and growth. But we may also find a time when we can simply allow these new manifestations to show up authentically without pushing or pressuring ourselves or others.

Nothing is more important than that we feel good. When we can sit in such a high vibration, we no longer worry if positive occurrences are ahead, because we understand that like attracts like. Happy attracts happy. Peace attracts more peaceful encounters. And at the end of day, we stop labeling whether something is good or bad anyway.

What would your life be like if you hopped off the hamster wheel? Who would you be if you took time out to truly enjoy the fragrant roses, to be awed by the simple fact that you are here, and without the pressure to move forward? What amazing things would show up for you if you began to live differently?

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. Are you getting the results you want? Are you happy? Maybe looking for results is the problem.

I’m not suggesting that we merely sit back and halt all action, but when we can fully experience pleasure in what is, then shifts begin to happen naturally and we begin to act from a place of authenticity and alignment with less effort, stress, or strain to achieve.

Maybe, just maybe, it is time to contemplate a new way of being. Letting go. Surrendering. Living with ease. You may be in awe by the magic that begins to show up after releasing the lifetime effort of incessant striving. What would your life be like if you let yourself off the hook, made room for bigger and better things to appear while you’re busy, not being busy?

A life without goals may just bring you heaps of happiness and fulfillment, loftier than you could ever dream.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

The law of attraction is certainly not new but it has gotten much more attention over the past decade since the movie “The Secret” came out which spread the message that “what we think about often becomes our reality.”

Similar teachings go on to say that our thoughts and emotions have an aligning vibration. Joy for example, is considered high on the vibrational scale thought to bring more positive experiences into our life while feeling depressed or angry tend to perpetuate more things that keep us stuck. The higher we can reach on the emotional scale and the longer we can remain there, the more enjoyable our life experience.

Emotions are signposts. Positive, uplifting emotions are pretty good indications that we’re going in the right direction and that we are in the process of attracting similar good-feeling experiences. The opposite is true when we’re in a downward cycle. Of course bad things can happen while feeling good but it seems that they are often few and far in between. And when they do happen, somehow we are more able to cope and make the best of it.

But if you’ve experimented with using the law of attraction, you know that it isn’t always easy to stay in that positive, loving, happy, and appreciative state for long enough to get our stuff. In fact, there is a very good chance that what we wanted to bring in whether it was love, money, or a great new job may have been closer than we imagined but we ended up cutting off the flow by falling back into our negative ways of thinking just before it manifested.

So what can we do to remain in a positive state long enough to bring more goodness into our life? And for those of us who are more prone to depression, anxiety, or fear, are there things that we can do to make a more permanent shift?

I’ll be the first to admit that it can take hard work to feel good. Unlike some people who pop out of bed feeling grateful for each day, I literally have to put effort in to get there. Of course there are good days along the way, but most often, consistent action is required.

I always suggest that my clients create a morning spiritual practice which involves reading uplifting material, journaling, and saying prayers or meditating. But I have only recently realized that if feeling upbeat, happy, and optimistic aren’t your norm, you may have to commit to several practices throughout the day. You may be one of those people who need constant reminders in order to stay in the zone.

Our brain can be like a small child or puppy that requires training, discipline, and programming in order to feel good. If you’re in the habit of feeling victimized, sad, angry, unfulfilled, lost, unhappy, frustrated, depressed, anxious, or even complacent, then you may be one of those people who will require 2, 3, 4, or more spiritual and emotional re-charges throughout your day.

Here are some examples of what they might consist of:
-Reading Uplifting Books
-Reciting Affirmations Throughout the Day
-Listening to Positive Podcasts While Driving
-Keeping A Gratitude Journal
-Taking Time Out for a Guided Hypnosis
-Meditation & Prayer
-Breathing Sessions
-Youtube Videos Featuring Inspirational Stories
-Yoga, Tai Chi, Qui Gong, or Another Centering Practice
-Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/Tapping)

….along with many others alternatives that resonate with you.

I won’t lie, feeling upbeat can seem like a full time job for some of us. But guess what? There is no more important aspect of life than that you feel good. When you can remain in this state long enough, more and more joyful opportunities will come along giving you even more reasons to celebrate.

If you’re not living the life you dreamt about, look at your emotional state. How do you feel most of the time? Where are your thoughts leading you? Are you continually living the same experiences that displease you over and over again? If so, are you ready to put an end to it once and for all?

Take the time. Commit to numerous, short, daily time outs and re-charge. Literally bombard your mind with positivity. Re-wire your brain.

If you knew that your current emotions were guiding you, would you be happy with where you’d end up? If the answer is no, then put in the work and fix the problem. Of course none of us will feel great all of the time but if you spend the majority of your day feeling bad, it’s a sure sign that changes need to be made.

You deserve to live a full and happy life that brings all you desire. Are you willing to step up and grab what’s yours? Are you willing to let your emotions be your guide?

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Consistency is Key

Consistency is Key

One thing that I have learned with almost 50 years under my belt is that consistency is the key to living a more satisfying and successful life. I’ve also figured out that being consistent always wins over hard work.

The problem that many of us have in life is that we lack consistency in certain areas. We tend to work hard for periods of time whether it be at our job or an exercise regimen but then we often slack afterwards because we feel burned out or tired.

When we overdo it in any area of our life it only makes sense that we’ll eventually lose momentum. Even with diets, we tend to be extreme for short periods to get the results we desire but the strict discipline is difficult to keep up and we end up gaining all of the weight back soon afterwards.

Moderate and consistent effort wins every time. People have often asked me how I have stayed fit throughout my life and my answer is always consistency. I don’t push too hard, I never have, and I have worked out 4-6 days per week since I was 13. Almost 37 years of consistent fitness has gotten me amazing results. While there were certainly times that I didn’t necessarily enjoy it, not once did I find it hard work.

While I have not been consistent in all areas, I definitely have the fitness and health component covered. None of us can be balanced in all areas of our life at all times and many of us put more emphasis in certain areas over others. But if we could learn to redistribute that effort into all parts of our day-to-day life from our spiritual practice to our work to relationships and our healthy lifestyle habits, we’d enjoy more stability and a smoother ride throughout.

Like brushing our teeth, doing something regularly and creating a routine makes it easier to continue. The longer we go without consistent action, the harder it is to get back to it. For example, have you taken time off from your exercise routine only to have months go by without doing anything? Have you avoided regular decluttering from your home only to quickly see things pile up in front of your eyes? Perhaps you notice that when you eat unhealthy foods regularly your body begins craving more unhealthy foods the longer you go.

Our spiritual and mental health also requires routine. When we run our spiritual batteries low, we become stressed, tired, overwhelmed, and grumpy. Committing to a daily gratitude and meditation practice for example, even for a few minutes per day will make the difference in how we feel.

When we act consistently it also gives us a sense of pride that we are taking care of ourselves and our life. We gain a self-reliance and confidence that we are committed to greatness and to being our best selves and we prove that we can in fact, do whatever we set our minds to.

The next time you find yourself slipping in any of the important areas of your life, stop, take a breath, and make a different choice. Push yourself if necessary and refocus your energy. Often the beginning is the most challenging but once over that initial hurdle, you’re set to go.

Sometimes just the simple awareness that we are off track or inconsistent is enough to snap us back into a new way of thinking, one that encourages us to keep moving forward towards our ultimate happiness and success in all that we do.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

When Stress Takes Over

When Stress Takes Over

We’ve all been there. Perhaps it was a difficult divorce, an illness or death in the family, financial struggle, or simply our hectic day-to-day schedules. At one point or another, we have felt overwhelmed and burdened by our preoccupation with a stressful condition and unable to sail through it easily and effortlessly.

So how do we move forward while in the midst of a pressuring situation? While there are no hard and fast rules, from a wellness approach, I suggest taking action both physically and spiritually. The physical deals with any practical steps that are required to help us move forward and the spiritual helps to alleviate any undo stress and heavy emotions that we’re dealing with from the inside out.

Physical
Physical activity is all about taking action towards solving a problem. If for example, you’re dealing with financial pressure, these steps may involve investigating a group such as debtors anonymous or a debt consolidation program. If it was a recent death, organizing the practical details around the funeral, settling of the estate, and any other pertinent planning are vital. If our stress is due to a job that we detest, then taking small steps each day to apply for new positions or to find a qualified recruiter is key.

When we take proactive measures, even when we don’t want to, it helps us to move out of our funk and into action. Such action brings us a sense of accomplishment even if those steps are small in comparison to where we want to go. Inactivity on the other hand, keeps us paralyzed.

Exercise is also important to help you get out of a rut. Even taking a short walk will get the blood flowing and the feel-good endorphins rushing to your brain. Some type of movement is better than none at all.

Spiritual
The spiritual work is what we do inwardly in order to reduce stress and move forward. Meditation, prayer, and journaling for example, are great ways to lower the pressure and help us to get centered. These are great practices to get our agonizing thoughts out of our head. Finding a therapist or good friend who you trust also brings in the spiritual and emotional support we need.

Stressful times can make us feel alone but we don’t need to go through these periods in isolation. Although reaching out is often the last thing that we feel like doing, it is important to our healing process.

Total recovery from any life-changing event requires a combination of going inward while also working from outside in. It is a fine balancing act ensuring that you are not neglecting key areas of the body, mind, and spirit that call for your attention.

You WILL move through your difficulties. It may seem as if the pain, stress, or obsessive patterns will never dissolve but change is inevitable and time does heal. Be gentle on yourself and remember during this period to go inward while also taking small steps towards shifting into an inevitable place of positive growth and evolution. Better days are ahead, this much I know for sure.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.jaybradleylifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

The Monk Fruit Alternative – Break Your Sugar Addiction For Good!

The Monk Fruit Alternative – Break Your Sugar Addiction For Good!

It seems that the healthier we get, the less we crave foods that aren’t good for us. We normally desire those foods which we eat the most. Sugar for example, if consumed regularly seems to perpetuate a constant craving for more sugar.

That being said, no matter where you stand with your health and eating habits, sometimes WE WANT CAKE! And that is totally fine. As a wellness coach, I teach my clients to enjoy the odd splurge with their primary focus being on eating smarter and healthier the majority of the time.

If you do crave sweets there are a few options instead of sugar. Sugar has been linked with increased inflammation within the body, depression, Diabetes and a lowered immune system. Raw honey, stevia, and organic maple syrup are a few good alternatives but my new Go-to SUPERSTAR of sweeteners is MONK FRUIT.

Over a thousand years ago in remote mountain highlands of Asia, a group of Buddhist monks called the Luohan achieved enlightenment through meditation, prayer and pure living. On the slopes of a primeval forest, the monks discovered and cultivated a rare fruit prized for its sweetness. This sacred fruit was named Monk Fruit, or Luohan Guo, after its devoted caretakers and was used in elixirs to increase chi, or life energy.

Monk Fruit was used for centuries in eastern traditional herbalism to increase chi and well-being, earning it the nickname “The Immortals’ Fruit.”

Monk Fruit is a delicious, all-natural, zero calorie, zero glycemic sweetener with the sumptuous rich taste of sugar. It can be replaced for sugar in equal amounts in all recipes and baking.

I am quite surprised that the whole world is not using Monk Fruit sweetener because of its likeness to sugar and its numerous health benefits. I am confident that in time, everyone will be consuming it.

My favorite Monk Fruit manufacturer is called Lakanto. They produce the highest quality products that I have seen, along with Monk Fruit sweetened chocolate bars and maple syrup. Their sugar alternative comes in original and golden, which can be likened to white and brown sugar.

The next time you’re craving a sweet snack, a substitution for your favorite cookie or crumble recipe, or sugar for your tea, use Lakanto’s Monk Fruit sweetener and enjoy no more guilt and no more sugar blues.

*Enjoy my complimentary 20% discount at www.Lakanto.com and enter JBL20 at checkout.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!