Anti-Social Media     

Anti-Social Media     

I’ve been taking a social media vacation. I needed a break. The more people I speak with, it seems that I am not alone. Others are also spending less time in their online communities yearning for a simpler way of life without the need for constant connection.

How is it that the very thing called social media has actually created a world that feels more lonely than ever before? Why does it now take effort to post, click, and interact, when it used to be light and fun? Why are many of us feeling anti-social with a need to disconnect?

There are a number of factors at play. The main reason this is happening is because we are actually having less and less physical interaction and the cyber world of likes, friends, and emoji’s has attempted to replace communication and connectedness. The bubble we’ve created of online dating and socializing has finally hit us hard. We’ve become burned out from this seemingly artificial way of feeling loved.

The problem is that we have forgotten what it’s truly like to bond and have intimate relationships which can only be created by speaking, listening and being present with another human being. Instead, we partially get involved when in truth, it isn’t a complete relationship. If we aren’t talking on the telephone, facetiming, or meeting up for coffee, then it’s somehow inadequate. Is it better than nothing? Probably. But when it comes to feeding our souls and uplifting our spirits, it may just be having the opposite effect.

With an increase in depression and suicide rates, it has shown that over time, this world of online chatter can magnify our feelings of loneliness, and leave us feeling depleted and unsupported. To top it off, if we’re already feeling down and then tune in to other’s fabulous lives on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, it only deepens our isolation.

Maybe it’s time to do a social media detox. Here is how:

  • Take a Break– Especially if you’re struggling emotionally or spiritually, stop scrolling through your social media accounts. The world will not end if you take 7 days away from your feed.
  • Replace it– Once you start your week long detox, replace your social media time doing something else. What excites you creatively that you’ve been putting off? When was the last time you read a book or took a class? How can you get back into real life instead of your online one?
  • Stop the Habit– Any habit or addiction takes work to overcome. You’ll need to literally make conscious efforts to leave your phone in the car or in a different room in order to be more fully present in your life. If you’re out with friends, stop with the impulsive need to check your accounts and BE HERE NOW.
  • Back to Basics– Start booking lunches and hikes with friends and make a point of bonding physically. Reach out to old friends in order to reconnect. If you’re looking to date, spend less time on the dating apps and more time at networking events or social gatherings. There is nothing more important than that we have physical connection, especially with those that lift us up.
  • Change Your Routine– It is so easy to do the same thing over and over again and sometimes structure is a good thing. But during this cleanse, force yourself to do something different. Finally book that group bowling or karaoke night or take a two-day getaway without the need to post every single detail about your trip.
  • Delegate – If you use social media for work purposes, hire somebody to help. There are plenty of people who can take over and assist with your online messaging. Learning to let go and asking for help will free you up and make room for exciting new opportunities and relationships.
  • Selfies to Selfless– For goodness sakes, stop with the selfies already. Feeling the need to capture every moment of your day is just boring and truth be told, nobody really cares about what you ate for lunch. Instead, be present in what is and breathe in every second instead of looking for the perfect lighting and backdrop for your next photo.

If you’re like me, you may feel more isolated and disconnected than ever. While it’s easy to blame social media, we cannot be held captive any longer. We must make a conscious choice to break free from this modern way of being and get back to living life fully. Spending time in nature, enjoying community, relaxing over candlelight and wine, and listening to soothing music are some examples of how to do this.

If you’re feeling burned out it’s up to you to make choices that lift you back up. The very thing that we have come to rely on to make us happy and to give us a sense of support, is doing the opposite. There is no better time to take a break and see what it’s like to enjoy yourself without the busyness of our online world. Day by day, start to cleanse and recreate new habits that are life-enhancing, heart opening, and ultimately, the way things were meant to be.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness and Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

 

 

Life’s Lessons To Make Us Stronger

Life’s Lessons To Make Us Stronger

Have you ever noticed that even when you’re doing well, life seems to test you? Do you ever sense that some invisible energy pushes you towards challenges and says “oh yea, you’re feeling good? Let’s see about that.”

While I believe that the world is a friendly place and that we are meant for joy and ease, I also suspect that we are here primarily to grow and evolve as spiritual beings, sometimes more than we we’d care to. We understand on some level that the Universe has our back but that it also directs us to be our best possible version even when we want to yell “NO, I am JUST FINE the way I am THANK YOU!”

If you regularly feel lured into a space that’s uncomfortable or areas where you thought you had it all worked out, you’re not alone. Many of us are being opened up so that we can finally release old patterns and live our best life. Often that process can be painful and disheartening.

The biggest challenge for most people comes down to self-love and self-acceptance. At our core, many of us feel unworthy. In turn, we tend to attract people and circumstances that exemplify this. While what seems like an undesirable and repetitive cycle, is actually an amazing opportunity to expand. We can learn from these lessons and finally move beyond the lower vibration and personal limitations.

If you’ve tended to attract lousy partners, failures at work, struggles financially, or ongoing health issues for example, the job is to figure out what our role is in the situation and then begin making a conscious effort to move beyond attracting the same experiences over and over again.

Instead of beating ourselves up however, there comes a quiet acknowledgement of what isn’t working and then little by little, we can begin designing a new future that is not created from old paradigms running the show.

Yes bad things can happen even when we do our best but if we begin seeing the Universe as a friendly place instead of feeling victimized, we gradually regain personal power even when times are tough and when it seems the world is against us.

If we can reconnect and charge our spiritual batteries daily by practicing self-love, self-acceptance, and self-forgiveness, we will begin to relax and our viewpoint of what’s good and bad, or right and wrong will shift into a knowing that all is well no matter what. It really is.

Sometimes life can be challenging and there are many days when we just want the lessons to stop. Decide once and for all to release the resistance and not to take things so seriously. Welcome the obstacle with open arms and step outside of your experience to see it for what it truly is…the chance to rise above and to embrace all that is.

Even when it feels like we aren’t making progress, we are! Day by day, step by step, we’re moving into a whole new and expansive space. Hang in there, you’re going to be just fine.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

How To Avoid Gluttony & Excess This Holiday Season

How To Avoid Gluttony & Excess This Holiday Season

Okay let’s face it, the holidays are ALL about celebration. And with that usually comes a lot of excess and gluttony. That is part of the fun!

The problem occurs when we begin acting unconsciously and in turn consume too much food, alcohol, and sugar without really taking time to enjoy and savor it. Often when we start on this slippery slope, we don’t know when or how to stop. In our minds, we think “oh hey, it’s the holidays, why not?” But what usually ends up happening is one massive holiday hangover afterwards.

So, this year why not indulge and celebrate with awareness?

Here are some tips on how you might do that:

WATER – For each alcoholic beverage, drink one sparkling or still water in between. This not only helps to properly hydrate your body but it also reminds you to slow down. You’ll end up consuming less alcohol while still enjoying the social aspect of having a drink in hand.

LESS IS MORE – Put less food on your plate than you normally would. Often our eyes are bigger than our stomachs. You can always go up for seconds or thirds if you are still craving more.

SLOW DOWN – Eat more slowly and chew your food completely. The very act of slowing down and savoring each bite will not only make you feel more nourished, it will prevent you from over-stuffing yourself and feeling bloated later on.

MOVE YOUR BODY – Do your best to fit exercise in. Instead of deciding to take the week off, why not go for a family hike or continue your gym regimen in between the festivities. You’ll burn much of what you’ve consumed and you will also avoid that sluggish and unmotivated feeling that often accompanies too much partying.

LESS IMPULSIVE – Be more conscious. Ask yourself “do I really want this extra cookie or am I just acting out of impulse?” Then if the answer is yes, take it and enjoy every delicious bite. Otherwise, step away and get back to the socializing and festivities.

GE GENTLE – Stop judging yourself. If you decide that this is your week to break your healthy eating and exercise routine then at least do it fully and completely. Avoid beating yourself up and be totally in the moment. We get nowhere when we condemn ourselves so whatever you do, do it with love and self-acceptance and leave your critic behind.

You got this! Now go have a wonderful time during the holidays and enjoy yourself abundantly. Just do it in a new way, one that is more mindful and aware, and one that leaves you feeling empowered, satisfied and fulfilled when January rolls around.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness, Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

When Life Gives You Lemons…

When Life Gives You Lemons…

I can’t say for sure if the Law of Attraction works 100% of the time. I have certainly read a lot about Quantum Physics along with numerous books outlining the powerful art of allowing things into our life. Sometimes I believe in it more than others.

One thing I know for sure, is that when I feel good, all things in my life seem to improve. When I feel optimistic, positive, and awake, my business picks up almost immediately, I feel more joy, and I seem to attract more wonderful people into my daily experience.

On the other hand, when I am tired, in a negative state, or just bored, clients drop off the face of the earth, my passion dissipates, and I become complacent.

Is this the Law of Attraction at play? Maybe. Whatever we want to call it, if we pay close attention, our emotions seem to navigate us into either a better or worse feeling experience.

That being said, does bad stuff happen to positive and happy people? Of course it does but it is my belief that we may be able to reduce much of this so-called negativity by first, changing our state of mind.

Have you ever noticed that those who complain the most seem to have more challenges? It’s as if life shows them more reasons to back their deep belief that things are hard or that they somehow have bad luck. The same seems true for those with a positive attitude. Life often gives them joyful experiences and when bad things do happen, they seem to find a deeper meaning in it and they gently flow through it without feeling victimized.

Life can be challenging that is certain. And sometimes we get what we don’t want. So isn’t it time that we learn to find true and lasting joy in ALL the moments of our journey and not just the good stuff? What if we could make a decision right now that we will begin seeing life as fair, loving, and protective and that when life gives us lemons, we WILL make lemonade.

Our mindset is directly connected to our emotions and vice versa. Therefore having a fearful thought makes us feel bad. We certainly can’t feel on top of the world every moment of every day but we CAN make a conscious effort to choose our thoughts more carefully, believe that the Universe is a friendly place, and trust that our future will in fact, be bright.

At the end of the day, we really only have two choices. We can choose lemons or we can choose lemonade. We can choose love or we can choose fear. Why not choose love more often? Love for our self, for others, for life, and for the world around us. Use today as an experiment to shift your mindset and watch how quickly your days begin to improve. Summer is here so you may as well enjoy that lemonade.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

How to Lose 5-20 Pounds in 10 Days!

How to Lose 5-20 Pounds in 10 Days!

It seems that many people struggle with their weight. Everybody wants to feel comfortable in his or her own skin and we all want to project a positive image to the world that makes us feel confident. While feeling overweight isn’t the core issue of our lack of self-acceptance, it certainly is a contributing factor. Being overweight has other potential negative health effects too such as long-term disease and obesity.

For these reasons and more, I’ve paired up with an amazing superfoods company to run a regular 10-Day transformational detox and cleanse. The majority of participants have experienced weight loss of somewhere between 5-20 lbs. in 10 days in a very healthy way. But more importantly, people have seen a reduction in unhealthy cravings, an increase in energy, more restorative sleep, improved skin, and just an overall healthier feeling. Not bad for 10 days huh?

As I mention to my clients and in my book LIVE LOOK FEEL, it is always a good idea to give our bodies a break, even for the most fit and healthy people. This is where a short-term detox and cleanse comes in. Often our bodies can become sluggish, overworked, and under-nourished due to numerous factors from a lack of nutritionally dense food, poor digestion, or stress.

Depending upon the type of cleanse, a detoxification assists our body in not only eliminating toxins and buildup in our systems but also brings in important nutrients, vitamins, and minerals, and works to alkaline our body and off-set some of the excess acidity. A detox also prompts us to become aware of our addictive patterns with food and it teaches us the importance of giving our body a rest from constant digesting, especially when it comes to meat protein and processed foods.

The 10-Day Transformation includes only the highest quality organic, raw, vegan, and non-GMO superfoods that I have ever seen. And I have seen a lot! But regardless of which products you use to detox whether it be supplements, food, or juice, make sure that you’re using top quality ingredients and that it has been approved by your doctor especially if you have any pre-existing health conditions or if you’re on medication.

Losing weight is just the beginning when it comes to detoxing. It’s what goes on inside on a cellular level that is most important. Often we can’t see those changes but we can certainly feel them! Expect an increase in vibrancy, energy, and an overall feeling of wellbeing.

Keep in mind that if you’re deciding to stop caffeine or other drugs during your cleanse, some withdrawal can be expected for the first few days. Make a commitment to yourself to stick with it no matter what, drink lots of water, and remind yourself that your body deserves a vacation just as much as you do!

  • If you’d like to find out more about my group 10-Day Transformation or if you’d like to join in, feel free to email me with any questions: jay@jaybradleylifestyle.com

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!