Many years ago I decided to try therapy because I was dealing with depression due to the break-up of a long-term relationship. My therapist having known that I felt down for an extended period said “you may feel depressed, but chances are you’re just really angry.” She went on to explain that depression and anger are closely tied together. Although depression can be a clinical diagnosis that requires professional care, it may also be caused by unexpressed anger or resentment towards somebody or something.
She was right, I had been building up resentment towards life for shattering my dreams, killing the storybook ending, and putting out my fire. I had let it build up with no way of expressing it or letting it out which led to a deep emotional pain.
I have since learned that there are healthy ways to express anger so that it doesn’t stew or lead to ongoing feelings of paralysis.
We all have troubling times and our emotions may range from discouragement to depression, or from frustration to feeling so angry that we lash out at those we love or get physically violent.
If you’ve been consistent with your spiritual practice, chances are these episodes will happen less or perhaps not as intense as they once were. But the truth is, life can be a rollercoaster and we have no choice but to go on the ride. It is how we deal with and sit through that ride that creates our life experience.
Studies have shown that ongoing, unresolved anger may lead to certain diseases such as heart attack, stroke, or cancer. There is a powerful link between stressful emotions and our physical health. But the good news is that it’s not too late to do something proactive especially if you’ve been dealing with *extreme anxiety, depression, or anger.
Sometimes when we’re in this state, we don’t feel like doing anything at all. But if you can muster up the energy, here are some helpful actions that you can take to go deeper and uncover these heavy emotions once and for all. When we can gain an understanding and become conscious of their existence, we come to realize that underneath all of it is our natural state of joy, bliss, relaxation, balance, unconditional love, and gratitude.
Exercise – One of the best ways to expel anger is to push yourself through an exercise routine. Running or cardio training is particularly effective at clearing the mind and eliminating negative self-talk. Exercise of any type releases feel-good endorphins and helps us to feel better.
Punch a Pillow – Sometimes anger needs to be expressed and we don’t always have an outlet. The best way to let out the built up tension is by punching a pillow over and over again while screaming at the top of your lungs. What may seem extreme at first, you’ll find will dissipate the anger leaving you feeling more relaxed and calm afterwards.
Breath Practice – I teach both group class and one-on-one transformational breath sessions and along with the breath work, we always let out a few screams during each session too. Deep breathing is the quickest and most effective way to access stifled emotions and pain. It opens the channels for you to heal on all levels of body, mind, and spirit and makes way to feelings of euphoria and bliss.
Meditation – Sometimes meditation can feel agonizing for those suffering from depression or anger because our mind and ego gets in the way. With practice, we can learn to de-clutter our minds and release pent up emotions. Combining breath work with meditation is the ideal combination.
Yoga – Yoga is the perfect mix of physical activity and mindfulness. Find a class that resonates with you and one that you enjoy. Like any spiritual practice, yoga will help to uncover blocks, fears, and unresolved emotion that may have been lingering for years.
Karate – Another great physical activity that helps to release anger is Karate. The combination of physical force and mental focus gets you out of your head and into your center, the core of who you are.
Boxing – While I am not a huge advocate of fighting, a healthy boxing practice, even solo with a bag is an awesome way to expel built up emotion along with giving you a great workout.
Dancing – Movement of any kind often helps with anger. Dancing to your favorite music playing loudly in the background may be just the thing you’ve been needing. Lose yourself in the music and dance like nobody is watching. Research a group called Ecstatic Dance in your area or plan a night out with friends.
Remove Yourself – Sometimes we will need to make physical changes such as leaving an abusive relationship with somebody who pisses us off regularly. Or perhaps seeking out a new job that has a more positive environment may be just the thing you need to do. Know that you are never stuck in a situation and that forward movement is possible. You just need to take the first steps.
*Make sure to speak with your doctor if you’ve been experiencing ongoing feelings of extreme depression, anger, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts.
Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!
Hypnosis scares a lot of people. It’s most likely because many of us have images of losing control and we fear being under somebody else’s spell. Most of us have been to hypnosis shows where audience members are put into a trance only to do outrageous things on stage not remembering a single thing afterwards.
What most people don’t realize is that only a small percentage of people can enter into that type of deep state while most of us have total control and awareness during and after our hypnosis sessions.
While this type of stage performance normally done by a mentalist can be very entertaining for those watching, it serves very little purpose in terms of helping people.
When used alongside therapy or coaching, hypnosis can be a powerful tool to help you move through fears, phobias, blocks, and traumatic memories. It is often used for pain management, addictive behaviors and emotional obstructs. As a Certified Hypnotist myself, I use it often for clients with issues around their eating, exercise, weight, and so much more.
You may not realize this but we are hypnotized every day. Can you recall a time when you were driving home and once you got to your destination, you blanked on how you actually got there? The drive literally put you into a trance. In fact, we are often in a hypnotic daydream and we don’t even realize it. We can be walking, talking, flipping channels, surfing the net and even driving while in this state.
The goal of a hypnosis session is to go deep into the subconscious mind in order to release thoughts that the conscious mind can’t seem to let go of. They are often incessant and obsessive and more than not, they are voices that tell us we are not enough. Many times they’re based on an actual past event or it could be something that we carry energetically from our family or even our ancestors.
Mostly, we just want permission to thrive and be happy but our minds won’t allow it. A skilled hypnotist or hypnotherapist will uncover these blocks and use specific words and visuals to help you make permanent shifts in your life.
Sometimes more than one session is required while at other times, one is all you may need.
It’s definitely not a magic show but rather likened to a guided meditation where you are in full control and where you are able to completely relax, disconnect from the outer world, and go on an inward journey to a place that reprograms your negative and limiting thinking. This in turn leaves you feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and lighter than before.
Many people report immediate and permanent shifts while at other times, results can appear more gradually and over time.
No matter what your challenges, hypnosis can definitely be an important tool to help you overcome your blocks once and for all!
*If you’d like to have a complimentary consult with me to see if hypnosis is a good fit, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Jay is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. He is also a Certified Hypnotist & Reiki Master. http://www.jaybradleylifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!
We’ve all been there. Perhaps it was a difficult divorce, an illness or death in the family, financial struggle, or simply our hectic day-to-day schedules. At one point or another, we have felt overwhelmed and burdened by our preoccupation with a stressful condition and unable to sail through it easily and effortlessly.
So how do we move forward while in the midst of a pressuring situation? While there are no hard and fast rules, from a wellness approach, I suggest taking action both physically and spiritually. The physical deals with any practical steps that are required to help us move forward and the spiritual helps to alleviate any undo stress and heavy emotions that we’re dealing with from the inside out.
Physical activity is all about taking action towards solving a problem. If for example, you’re dealing with financial pressure, these steps may involve investigating a group such as debtors anonymous or a debt consolidation program. If it was a recent death, organizing the practical details around the funeral, settling of the estate, and any other pertinent planning are vital. If our stress is due to a job that we detest, then taking small steps each day to apply for new positions or to find a qualified recruiter is key.
When we take proactive measures, even when we don’t want to, it helps us to move out of our funk and into action. Such action brings us a sense of accomplishment even if those steps are small in comparison to where we want to go. Inactivity on the other hand, keeps us paralyzed.
Exercise is also important to help you get out of a rut. Even taking a short walk will get the blood flowing and the feel-good endorphins rushing to your brain. Some type of movement is better than none at all.
The spiritual work is what we do inwardly in order to reduce stress and move forward. Meditation, prayer, and journaling for example, are great ways to lower the pressure and help us to get centered. These are great practices to get our agonizing thoughts out of our head. Finding a therapist or good friend who you trust also brings in the spiritual and emotional support we need.
Stressful times can make us feel alone but we don’t need to go through these periods in isolation. Although reaching out is often the last thing that we feel like doing, it is important to our healing process.
Total recovery from any life-changing event requires a combination of going inward while also working from outside in. It is a fine balancing act ensuring that you are not neglecting key areas of the body, mind, and spirit that call for your attention.
You WILL move through your difficulties. It may seem as if the pain, stress, or obsessive patterns will never dissolve but change is inevitable and time does heal. Be gentle on yourself and remember during this period to go inward while also taking small steps towards shifting into an inevitable place of positive growth and evolution. Better days are ahead, this much I know for sure.
Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Expert Living in Los Angeles. http://www.jaybradleylifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!
As a certified wellness coach CWC I’ve worked with people all over the world to help them achieve a healthier and happier balance between their body, mind, and spirit. My goal is to dig in, find out where they’re off balance, and then session by session, work to assist my clients in regaining and rediscovering a new way of living that better fits their goals.
Many of them want to lose weight, increase physical energy, or look and feel younger. While all of these are important, we come to realize as we work together that it is what’s inside that counts the most. We learn, as a team, that true balance, happiness, and wellness is ALWAYS an inside job.
If we look at quantum physics and the study of matter, we know that everything in life including the computer or phone that you’re reading this on, is in fact, energy. In essence all “things” are simply molecules bouncing around.
When we look at our physical body and our level of health for example, these too are made up of energy. The question then becomes, what gets our energy moving in a positive direction? The answer is our thoughts and emotions. Thoughts are the basis of everything that we desire. Past thoughts have created the life that we are living today and if we want to know where we’ll be in a week, month, or year from now, we need only look at today’s thoughts and inner feelings. By doing this we’ll know without much doubt what is to come.
All experiences in our present moment can be pinpointed to thoughts and beliefs that we had a week, month, or years ago. So in order to make changes in our life and improve our health, we must change our self-defeating thoughts. When we take more control and become the change that we want to see from the inside out, it’s a very empowering way to live.
This can also be one of the most challenging aspects of our journey. Many of our thoughts and beliefs are habitual and unconscious and it can be difficult to change the ones that have been with us since childhood…difficult but not impossible.
If we are dealing with a health crisis it can take even more strength and discipline to tap into that positive vibration of total healing within us. But the more we begin to catch our negative or self-defeating patterns, fears, and negative dialogue and then immediately changing them into positives, the quicker we experience shifts for the better.
Creating a morning practice that involves journaling, meditation, quiet reflection, and reading uplifting books is the beginning of putting your inner self first. When we carve out this time we begin to make our emotional and spiritual life a priority and this is where the magic begins. When we turn inward and pay attention to that quiet voice of intuition within us and we begin to get conscious of our thoughts, the right people, circumstances, and opportunities begin to show up almost effortlessly and our health often begins to improve. The ideal healer, doctor, coach, or specialist will appear with synchronicity to help speed the process along.
As I have learned in my life and through the experiences of my clients, ANYTHING is possible and change IS attainable once we begin to do the inner work of releasing negativity, fear, and limiting thoughts. When we work from the inside out and then the outside in, we have a recipe for true success in all areas. It doesn’t always happen over night but it is quite possibly the most important priority that we will ever make.
Jay Bradley is an Anti-Aging, Wellness, and Lifestyle Coach living in Los Angeles.
He is the author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger, and Feel Better!
We all want to look great! We all want to feel amazing! The great news is that no matter what your chronological age, you CAN make a difference. For those in their 20s, making positive changes early on can positively affect the way they look and feel throughout life. For those over 50, accessing anti-aging regimens WILL turn back the clock!
Everybody ages differently based upon numerous factors including genetics and lifestyle choices such as diet, exercise, and smoking habits, but EVERYBODY can look and feel better by making some positive choices along the way.
Here is a general guide for people of every age. You may decide to adopt more aggressive anti-aging regimens earlier on and the choice is always yours. The best decision when it comes to staying youthful is consistent effort over an extended period of time. ALWAYS do the inner emotional and spiritual work first, working from the inside out and then the outside in.
- Good Skincare – Start with a simple, yet effective skincare regimen in your 20s. Find products that fit your skin type. If you’re oily or have acne, make sure to properly cleanse the skin twice per day and consider salicylic acid pads to thoroughly clean your pores. Be gentle with your skin and do your best not to pick as this can cause damage.
- Sunscreen – By committing to protecting your skin at a young age, the benefits will show for the rest of your life. Find a face and body SPF of 30-50 without retinyl palmitate and oxybenzone and one that is preservative free. Apply it everyday to any exposed areas even during the winter months and on cloudy days.
- Drink water – By getting into the habit of drinking 8-10 glasses of quality, filtered water every single day your skin will THANK YOU plus your body will get to work rinsing out toxins from your system.
- Exercise – The earlier that one starts an exercise regimen, the better their chances of continuing throughout life. Make strength training, and cardiovascular exercise a habit and commit to 4-5 days per week.
- Soul Search – By beginning to take time every day to reflect, meditate, go inward, and even talking with a good therapist, this will help you to begin eliminating toxic emotions from a young age allowing you more freedom to enjoy your life fully as the years go on. You will learn the art of self-love and self-acceptance which is the most important part of our life journey.
- Supplements – This is the time of your life when you want to begin taking supplements such as an extensive multivitamin plus minerals, krill oil, and a quality probiotic.
- Botox- In your 30s you may begin noticing fine lines, and furrows starting between your eyebrows. Consider starting a regimen of Botox Cosmetic or Dysport to gently reduce the muscle movement thus softening or eliminating future wrinkles.
- Lasers – To improve your skin tone and texture, the IPL laser or Photofacial is a wonderful, relatively non-invasive way of giving your skin a renewed and fresh look.
- Interval Cardio – Consider pumping up your cardio training now by shifting into high intensity interval training (HIIT) sessions which push your body harder for shorter periods of time. This will assist the release of HGH (the anti-aging hormone) and help to improve your overall body and skin.
- Self Help – This is a time in your life to take your personal growth, and spirituality more seriously. Really commit to finding a spiritual practice for yourself and explore healing modalities such as acupuncture, massage, or hypnosis. Dig deep and release any further blocks that you may be carrying.
- Serious Skincare – Your 40s is the time to explore serious skincare that truly packs a punch! My favorite and one that is getting rave reviews by doctors all around the world is called TNS Essential Serum by SkinMedica. Human Fibroblasts help to renew your skin cells and work hard to reduce the signs of aging, revealing youthful skin.
- Additional Herbs – Along with a regular vitamin regimen, introducing herbs that assist with inflammation, adrenal support, and stress reduction will be beneficial. Research herbs such as Ashwaganda, Rhodiola, and Turmeric, and make sure to take psyllium husk daily to support proper digestive and colon health.
- Fillers – Hyaluronic fillers such as Juvederm and Restylane work to temporarily plump the skin. They are amazing at reducing deep smile lines and other areas of your face that are beginning to show signs of aging.
- Hormones – In your 30s and 40s, your hormone levels may begin to fluctuate which can accelerate the aging process. Find a qualified anti-aging specialist to discuss Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy (BHRT)
- Deep Cleaning – At this stage in your life, make regular body cleanses a seasonal practice. Try a juice cleanse or get regular colonics to assist your body in reducing toxins and chemicals.
- Sculptra – Often people in their late 40s or 50s begin to show signs of sagging or facial drooping due to fat loss. Sculptra is a wonderful cosmetic injectable that helps to stimulate your own collagen which in turn brings back the fullness you had in your 20s and 30s. It is done over a series of sessions in order to achieve a natural effect. You may also consider natural fat injections as an alternative.
- Ultherapy – This is a great time to consider Ultherapy which uses ultrasound technology to stimulate collagen. It works deeply to lift, and tone your skin. It is a great alternative to the more invasive facelift and full results will be seen over a period of 3-6 months.
- Cosmetic Surgery – Some people may have surgery earlier in their life but the 50s is a great time to consider a lift. Having a neck, face, or eyelift can completely change how you feel about yourself and take years off of your appearance. Always choose a doctor who has the most natural looking clients.
- Meditate – While finding inner and outer peace is essential at any age, it becomes particularly important the older we get. Meditation, yoga, and other mind-calming practices have been shown to reduce stress-related illness. Put your spiritual practice first.
- Make Peace – This is a wonderful time to make peace with your past and fully forgive others and yourself. Now is the time to FULLY enjoy life and find a wonderful balance between work and recreation.
60s and Beyond
- Makeover – People at this age may consider more extensive cosmetic surgery and more aggressive lasers to fully rejuvenate their appearance. Men who haven’t already, may choose to have hair transplants to regain the full head of hair they had earlier in life.
- Give Back – There is nothing more cathartic than giving back to others. At this stage in your life, think about what gifts you have to share with the world and really focus on getting them out there in order to change the lives of others. Giving back helps you to reduce your own stress by putting your focus on other people.
- Retreats – Take time to attend spas and retreats regularly to rejuvenate your body, mind, and soul. Treat yourself. You so deserve it!
- Experiment – Research the latest anti-aging, and health trends and experiment on yourself. This is an exciting time and you don’t need to age the way your parents and grandparents did. This is your prime! Set a new example for how HOT your 60s and beyond can be.
- Get Creative – Tune into your inner artist and truly explore all of those creative endeavors that may not have been fully realized. What did you love to do when you were a child? What is your inner voice telling you would be fun? By getting creative, you stay young!
*Always consult your doctor before beginning any nutrition or exercise regimen. Do your research to ensure that you are working with professionals who have a proven track record.
Jay Bradley is an anti-aging, wellness and lifestyle expert living in Los Angeles. He is the author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, the 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!