Life Without Goals – Is It The Way To A Happier Experience?

Life Without Goals – Is It The Way To A Happier Experience?

Lately I’ve been sitting in a place unlike anywhere I’ve been before. I literally live my day-to-day experience without concrete goals, ambitions, or a particular destination in mind. This is the first time in my life where I have “no place to go” and I am surprisingly present and calm.

If you’re like me, you have thrived on pushing yourself towards achieving some type of future vision. You’ve found motivation through mental images of your dream home, the newest model of your favorite sports car, a perfect wedding, or manifesting the ideal physique. Whatever it is, most of us have been taught that desires equal a fulfilling reality. While I’d agree that as humans, we are often energized by new things, anytime we place our happiness in the hands of stuff yet to be accomplished, we are sure to be disappointed, and we may never find ourselves fully present in what is.

So how do we live more in the here and now and will we still attract a good experience if we stop trying? I have always been afraid to take a break from wanting with fear that my life would somehow go backwards, thinking that if I didn’t dream or desire, I’d simply shrivel up and die or at the very least, live some type of mediocre existence.

In fact, the opposite has occurred. I feel more alive than ever! Taking the pressure off to BE SOMEBODY, GET SOMEWHERE, and HAVE MORE STUFF has created an unparalleled presence and joy in THIS moment unlike anything I’ve felt before.

We’ve all heard about allowing enlightenment in through meditation and spiritual practice, and in theory, we understand what this entails. But unless we actually experience it, it’s difficult to grasp what it really means to live in the present.

This may come with age and maturity, and I’m in no way saying that I have mastered it, but when we can just slow down, take a breath, and realize that there is NO PLACE TO GET TO, and that everything outside of us is an illusion of sorts, then we begin to gain the wisdom that is described in ancient texts around the world. Knowing that we are enough just as we are. We are enough with or without our stuff, whether we are single or married, healthy or sick, rich or poor. We are enough because we are here!

Yes, we are physical beings having a spiritual experience and chances are that we will always have dreams of people, places, and things that we want to attract because we desire expansion and growth. But we may also find a time when we can simply allow these new manifestations to show up authentically without pushing or pressuring ourselves or others.

Nothing is more important than that we feel good. When we can sit in such a high vibration, we no longer worry if positive occurrences are ahead, because we understand that like attracts like. Happy attracts happy. Peace attracts more peaceful encounters. And at the end of day, we stop labeling whether something is good or bad anyway.

What would your life be like if you hopped off the hamster wheel? Who would you be if you took time out to truly enjoy the fragrant roses, to be awed by the simple fact that you are here, and without the pressure to move forward? What amazing things would show up for you if you began to live differently?

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. Are you getting the results you want? Are you happy? Maybe looking for results is the problem.

I’m not suggesting that we merely sit back and halt all action, but when we can fully experience pleasure in what is, then shifts begin to happen naturally and we begin to act from a place of authenticity and alignment with less effort, stress, or strain to achieve.

Maybe, just maybe, it is time to contemplate a new way of being. Letting go. Surrendering. Living with ease. You may be in awe by the magic that begins to show up after releasing the lifetime effort of incessant striving. What would your life be like if you let yourself off the hook, made room for bigger and better things to appear while you’re busy, not being busy?

A life without goals may just bring you heaps of happiness and fulfillment, loftier than you could ever dream.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

A Miracle Created By Bees     

A Miracle Created By Bees     

We have all tried various forms of honey from New Zealand Manuka to Lavender and Buckwheat and many of us know the powerful healing properties of this delicious wonder from nature.

But there is something even more amazing and nutrient rich, it is the waxy, sticky substance that holds the bee hive together, known as Propolis.

Propolis has proven antibiotic and antiseptic properties and may also have antiviral and anti-inflammatory effects. It has become popular both topically and used internally for everything from colds, herpes, burns, canker sores, various infections, acne, arthritis, and even to boost the immunity in order to fight cancer cells.

This miracle substance is a mixture of beeswax and various secretions created from the poplar and cone-bearing trees visited by the bees. Propolis has been shown to fight bacteria, fungus, and viruses and can be purchased in various forms such as supplement, spray, cream, and combined with honey.

Part of the immune-boosting properties come from the high amino acid content within Propolis along with Vitamins C, E, and B1, B2, and B6. Propolis also contains powerful polyphenols and minerals.

When it comes to lesions, genital herpes, cold sores, or anything topical, try a 3% Propolis ointment 3-4 times per day on the affected area. For immune-boosting properties, consider a Propolis supplement of 1000 mg per day. 

  • Be cautious if you have an allergy to bee products such as honey, pollen, or certain trees and always consult with your physician if you are pregnant or on blood-thinning medications before taking Propolis.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

Let Emotions Be Your Guide

The law of attraction is certainly not new but it has gotten much more attention over the past decade since the movie “The Secret” came out which spread the message that “what we think about often becomes our reality.”

Similar teachings go on to say that our thoughts and emotions have an aligning vibration. Joy for example, is considered high on the vibrational scale thought to bring more positive experiences into our life while feeling depressed or angry tend to perpetuate more things that keep us stuck. The higher we can reach on the emotional scale and the longer we can remain there, the more enjoyable our life experience.

Emotions are signposts. Positive, uplifting emotions are pretty good indications that we’re going in the right direction and that we are in the process of attracting similar good-feeling experiences. The opposite is true when we’re in a downward cycle. Of course bad things can happen while feeling good but it seems that they are often few and far in between. And when they do happen, somehow we are more able to cope and make the best of it.

But if you’ve experimented with using the law of attraction, you know that it isn’t always easy to stay in that positive, loving, happy, and appreciative state for long enough to get our stuff. In fact, there is a very good chance that what we wanted to bring in whether it was love, money, or a great new job may have been closer than we imagined but we ended up cutting off the flow by falling back into our negative ways of thinking just before it manifested.

So what can we do to remain in a positive state long enough to bring more goodness into our life? And for those of us who are more prone to depression, anxiety, or fear, are there things that we can do to make a more permanent shift?

I’ll be the first to admit that it can take hard work to feel good. Unlike some people who pop out of bed feeling grateful for each day, I literally have to put effort in to get there. Of course there are good days along the way, but most often, consistent action is required.

I always suggest that my clients create a morning spiritual practice which involves reading uplifting material, journaling, and saying prayers or meditating. But I have only recently realized that if feeling upbeat, happy, and optimistic aren’t your norm, you may have to commit to several practices throughout the day. You may be one of those people who need constant reminders in order to stay in the zone.

Our brain can be like a small child or puppy that requires training, discipline, and programming in order to feel good. If you’re in the habit of feeling victimized, sad, angry, unfulfilled, lost, unhappy, frustrated, depressed, anxious, or even complacent, then you may be one of those people who will require 2, 3, 4, or more spiritual and emotional re-charges throughout your day.

Here are some examples of what they might consist of:
-Reading Uplifting Books
-Reciting Affirmations Throughout the Day
-Listening to Positive Podcasts While Driving
-Keeping A Gratitude Journal
-Taking Time Out for a Guided Hypnosis
-Meditation & Prayer
-Breathing Sessions
-Youtube Videos Featuring Inspirational Stories
-Yoga, Tai Chi, Qui Gong, or Another Centering Practice
-Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT/Tapping)

….along with many others alternatives that resonate with you.

I won’t lie, feeling upbeat can seem like a full time job for some of us. But guess what? There is no more important aspect of life than that you feel good. When you can remain in this state long enough, more and more joyful opportunities will come along giving you even more reasons to celebrate.

If you’re not living the life you dreamt about, look at your emotional state. How do you feel most of the time? Where are your thoughts leading you? Are you continually living the same experiences that displease you over and over again? If so, are you ready to put an end to it once and for all?

Take the time. Commit to numerous, short, daily time outs and re-charge. Literally bombard your mind with positivity. Re-wire your brain.

If you knew that your current emotions were guiding you, would you be happy with where you’d end up? If the answer is no, then put in the work and fix the problem. Of course none of us will feel great all of the time but if you spend the majority of your day feeling bad, it’s a sure sign that changes need to be made.

You deserve to live a full and happy life that brings all you desire. Are you willing to step up and grab what’s yours? Are you willing to let your emotions be your guide?

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com
He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

Is Anger Getting in the Way?

Is Anger Getting in the Way?

Many years ago I decided to try therapy because I was dealing with depression due to the break-up of a long-term relationship. My therapist having known that I felt down for an extended period said “you may feel depressed, but chances are you’re just really angry.” She went on to explain that depression and anger are closely tied together. Although depression can be a clinical diagnosis that requires professional care, it may also be caused by unexpressed anger or resentment towards somebody or something.

She was right, I had been building up resentment towards life for shattering my dreams, killing the storybook ending, and putting out my fire. I had let it build up with no way of expressing it or letting it out which led to a deep emotional pain.

I have since learned that there are healthy ways to express anger so that it doesn’t stew or lead to ongoing feelings of paralysis.

We all have troubling times and our emotions may range from discouragement to depression, or from frustration to feeling so angry that we lash out at those we love or get physically violent.

If you’ve been consistent with your spiritual practice, chances are these episodes will happen less or perhaps not as intense as they once were. But the truth is, life can be a rollercoaster and we have no choice but to go on the ride. It is how we deal with and sit through that ride that creates our life experience.

Studies have shown that ongoing, unresolved anger may lead to certain diseases such as heart attack, stroke, or cancer. There is a powerful link between stressful emotions and our physical health. But the good news is that it’s not too late to do something proactive especially if you’ve been dealing with *extreme anxiety, depression, or anger.

Sometimes when we’re in this state, we don’t feel like doing anything at all. But if you can muster up the energy, here are some helpful actions that you can take to go deeper and uncover these heavy emotions once and for all. When we can gain an understanding and become conscious of their existence, we come to realize that underneath all of it is our natural state of joy, bliss, relaxation, balance, unconditional love, and gratitude.

Exercise – One of the best ways to expel anger is to push yourself through an exercise routine. Running or cardio training is particularly effective at clearing the mind and eliminating negative self-talk. Exercise of any type releases feel-good endorphins and helps us to feel better.

Punch a Pillow – Sometimes anger needs to be expressed and we don’t always have an outlet. The best way to let out the built up tension is by punching a pillow over and over again while screaming at the top of your lungs. What may seem extreme at first, you’ll find will dissipate the anger leaving you feeling more relaxed and calm afterwards.

Breath Practice – I teach both group class and one-on-one transformational breath sessions and along with the breath work, we always let out a few screams during each session too. Deep breathing is the quickest and most effective way to access stifled emotions and pain. It opens the channels for you to heal on all levels of body, mind, and spirit and makes way to feelings of euphoria and bliss.

Meditation – Sometimes meditation can feel agonizing for those suffering from depression or anger because our mind and ego gets in the way. With practice, we can learn to de-clutter our minds and release pent up emotions. Combining breath work with meditation is the ideal combination.

Yoga – Yoga is the perfect mix of physical activity and mindfulness. Find a class that resonates with you and one that you enjoy. Like any spiritual practice, yoga will help to uncover blocks, fears, and unresolved emotion that may have been lingering for years.

Karate – Another great physical activity that helps to release anger is Karate. The combination of physical force and mental focus gets you out of your head and into your center, the core of who you are.

Boxing – While I am not a huge advocate of fighting, a healthy boxing practice, even solo with a bag is an awesome way to expel built up emotion along with giving you a great workout.

Dancing – Movement of any kind often helps with anger. Dancing to your favorite music playing loudly in the background may be just the thing you’ve been needing. Lose yourself in the music and dance like nobody is watching. Research a group called Ecstatic Dance in your area or plan a night out with friends.

Remove Yourself – Sometimes we will need to make physical changes such as leaving an abusive relationship with somebody who pisses us off regularly.  Or perhaps seeking out a new job that has a more positive environment may be just the thing you need to do. Know that you are never stuck in a situation and that forward movement is possible. You just need to take the first steps.

*Make sure to speak with your doctor if you’ve been experiencing ongoing feelings of extreme depression, anger, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living in Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!

What IF This is as Good as it Gets?

What IF This is as Good as it Gets?

I am ALL for being optimistic and thinking positive. I believe that we can to some degree, create our destiny using affirmations, a focused mindset, and the power of intention. But if you’ve tried to implement the law of attraction you may have found that things don’t always go as planned.

Sometimes life can take us in a totally different direction than we wanted, and often, it ends up being exactly what we need.

Lately, the message that keeps coming to me is “what if this is as good as it gets?” What if our life doesn’t improve from where it is today? How would we feel if that miracle job, relationship, or adventure didn’t happen at all? I don’t mean to revert to a negative or pessimistic attitude but rather, I’d like to create a new way of living and thinking, one that brings us back into this moment. The ONLY moment we have.

When we spend time wanting, desiring, needing, and day dreaming about things to come, we totally miss what is directly in front of us. And even if the current situation is challenging, we can learn to find within that moment, truth, growth, pain, acceptance, and perhaps even more love and gratitude than we ever thought possible.

We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t have dreams and I am not suggesting that we ditch those fantasies because in many ways, they are what sustain us. An underlying faith that life will get better keeps us from sinking too low when times are tough.

But there is a certain amount of surrender that needs to take place once we’ve set intentions for something new to come. We can learn to envision it, feel it’s presence and then gently let it go with a deep knowing that it will show up…or perhaps something better. And by better, I don’t necessarily mean what appears positive to those looking on. Better may mean something that trumps the fancy car, ideal mate, or windfall. It may just be the thing that we need to help us grow in a totally new direction.

What if this is as good as it gets? Would you be okay with that? Would you be able to dig deep and find love, joy, appreciation, and satisfaction in what may seem boring, monotonous, or disappointing? Being present, accepting what is, and squeezing every bit of juice out of our day-to-day experience may be the key to living a full and rich life.

Chances are very good that your life WILL improve and that many of your dreams will come true. But just for today, why not live as if this is as good as it gets and see what comes of it. I have a feeling it may open you up to a whole new depth of richness and beauty in even the most mundane of experiences.

 

Jay Bradley is a Youthful Aging, Wellness & Lifestyle Coach Living In Los Angeles. http://www.JayBradleyLifestyle.com

He is the Best-Selling Author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better!